Ladies, if you have struck up an online relationship, but want to take it to the next level and meet face-to-face, you may need to be the one to make the first move. In an effort to be respectful, a guy may think that a girl wants to take things slow with an online relationship, and won”t ask you out. So if you would rather be out on a date instead of typing away at a computer, follow a few tips and get out there!
Write and Rewrite Your Message
One great thing about asking someone out online is that you can write out your invitation as many times as you need until you are happy with it. Be careful not to write yourself crazy, though. Too many times and you will just frustrate yourself. Write it out a few times and select the best one.
Causally Work it Into the Conversation
The simpler the better. If you have been chatting for any amount of time, you should be able to pick up on what he likes. If he likes coffee, suggest getting a Latte. Use easy going language avoid the phrase “hook up”.
Be Patient
If he doesn”t respond right away, give him a little time. Maybe he is writing and rewriting his response to get it just right, or maybe he is just busy. If you bug him too much, you may scare him off. If it”s been a few days, send him a short follow-up message with an upbeat tone. If you don”t hear back, count yourself blessed. If he is disrespectful enough to just not respond at all, the date probably wouldn”t have been good anyway. You deserve better. But don”t stop trying! The right guy is out there. Enjoy the search.
