You’ve worked so hard preparing every detail of your day, from party favors to name cards and everything in between, you want to make sure everything is perfect. Completely understandable. However, there is a healthy balance when it comes to the day of your wedding. It is okay to want things to be perfect, however, if it becomes extreme you begin to risk your experience at your own wedding. At the end of the day, what are you going to remember?? Are you going to remember that you were 20 minutes late? Or are you going to remember how much fun you had? Do you want to waste the day being worried about your timeline, or do you want to enjoy it with the people you love??
Remember; you get ONE day! Here are some helpful tips to making sure you enjoy every second of it:
- Start the day off right!
Plan accordingly the best you can so the last-minute details are done the week before your wedding. A couple stress-free days before the wedding will only help reduce stress on the day itself. Get plenty of sleep the night before ~ Try not to be hungover and make sure to eat a nice breakfast for energy and sustenance!
- Don’t worry about the weather
Let’s face it. This is completely out of anyone’s control. Why let it take away from one of the happiest days of your life. Rain or shine, your day will be perfect and your photos will turn out great. Trust your venue and remember, it’s good luck to rain on your wedding!
- Forget the “no-shows”
Someone is bound to get sick or a babysitter falls through. Things happen. Be frustrated with them later, but not during your wedding. Missing a few people will not make or break your wedding experience.
Trust! Hopefully you have a day-of coordinator (highly recommend!!!) trust her! Your florist will show up. Your photographer knows you want the group photo at the end of the night. Your officiant will not forget your names and your DJ will play the right grand entrance song! You’ve done your due diligence with your vendors, they are professionals and will pull through! TRUST!
- Don’t sweat the details
Be guest at your own wedding. If the centerpiece flowers happen to be a darker shade of peachy-pink than you imagined, guess what, they are going to be dead tomorrow! I totally get that you spent thousands of dollars for the perfect flower arrangements, but let that be a concern later. Don’t turn a negative into something worse by robbing yourself of the most precious thing: time. You have limited time with your new spouse and your closest family and friends. In that moment, they aren’t thinking about the flowers, and neither should you! Once your wedding day has arrived, what’s done is done. Make the most with what you have!
Chances are you paid a lot of money for the food all your guests are enjoying. And chances are you really liked it, which is why you chose it in the first place! Make sure you take the time to enjoy it! Yes, there is time! Before you get up and do table visits, take some time to yourself and enjoy the meal you have selected. Not only do you deserve it, your body will be thankful later. It is a long day, you need to eat!
- Your guests ARE enjoying themselves
Many times couples are overly concerned about whether or not their guests are “having fun” that the day passes them by as they spend their time making sure everyone else is enjoying themselves. If you are enjoying yourself, so are your guests. Your guests are there to indulge in the excitement of the day and be supportive of the bride and groom. Open bar?? Trust me, they are having fun!
- You look absolutely perfect!
Feel confident. You look gorgeous to your fiancé, you look gorgeous to your guests, and you will look gorgeous in your photos. Don’t spend all night sucking it in or hiding your back side, your photographer will capture you in your beautiful moments!
- BE PRESENT
The day will go by fast, it is inevitable. The more you worry about time, the faster it will go. Even if you had a 10 hour wedding, it will still seem like it went by fast. It’s cliché but time flies when you’re having fun. The best thing to do is BE PRESENT.
If you want to get the most out of your day here’s the secret: Soak in every moment. Roll with the punches. Laugh about the mishaps. Be a guest at your own wedding. See things from your guest’s perspective. Eat. Drink. Accept that things are out of your control. Remember the day is about YOU and your fiancé. Take mental pictures. Live. Laugh. Enjoy.